Why Should We Homeschool?- Part 12- Teachers Are Starting to Give Up

Teachers everywhere are finding out that teaching is no longer about education.

Well, today we’ve finally reached the end of this seriesIn all honesty, I could probably continue on for months with this theme, but I’ve reached the point where I know that if all of these reasons won’t help someone make the decision to homeschool, nothing will.

By now my dislike of the public education system is no secret, but what I really want to convey right now is that that aversion does not extend to teachers. Most teachers- current and former teachers- I know are selfless, caring individuals who truly want to help children succeed in the world. A great portion of them have a genuine affinity for children and only desire to to be a positive influence in their lives.

School Violence Is on the Rise While Discipline Is Declining

Unfortunately, in an ever increasing number of school districts, that’s just not possible. Schools have recently become overrun by violence. Simultaneously, teachers are losing the power to discipline their students in any meaningful way. 

Not surprisingly, students have become well aware of this and are using it to their advantage.

Teachers Have Become Helpless

My oldest son graduated from public high school in 2011. (This was during my kids’ two year stint back in school due to homeschool burnout.) Every day he would come home with stories of his science teacher who had basically just given up.

Even though that was 5 years ago, the school environment had already reached the point that students had taken over the school. My son told me that the other kids in his class would spend the entire period listening to music, texting, braiding each other’s hair, and painting their nails while the science teacher would just sit at the front of his desk for the entire period doing absolutely nothing.

It would be an understatement to say that my son didn’t learn anything in science that year, although he did earn A’s in each rating period- probably because he actually behaved.

This isn’t an isolated case. Between speaking with students who are currently in public school and friends and acquaintances who either are, or were, teachers, the attitude of his science teacher is becoming more and more common because these educators know that, ultimately, their hands are tied.

Government bureaucracy has essentially made it impossible for students with behavior problems to be held accountable for their actions. I’ve written a few times about a boy in one of my daughter’s second grade classes who pretty much terrified the teacher, the class, and the entire school for months. Every day my daughter would come home from school worried about her teacher! The boy was not only explosive around other students, he used to physically assault the young, 20-something teacher who taught the class, and nothing was done about it until my daughter got hit by a desk that he threw. I called the principal, who gave a vague explanation of ‘needing to follow certain protocols.’ Then, and only then, was something done about it.

While that case may have been extreme, even minor distractions, left unchecked, are preventing children from getting the education the government promises to give them.

A few weeks ago, I overheard a conversation between my 16 yr. old son and a friend who attends the local middle school. She was telling him how during one of her classes she walks around and talks while the teacher is giving lessons. He asked her why, and she replied,

My teacher won’t write me up. He says it’s too much work.

Do you see?

That 14 yr. old girl gets what millions of parents do not- teachers are no longer in control of their classrooms.

Teachers Are Turning Against the System

Last year I was telling a friend at church who happens to be an elementary school teacher that my oldest son was thinking about studying to be a biology teacher. I thought she would be happy, but instead she was horrified, and said,

No! Tell him not to do it. It’s not what he thinks it is. Please tell him not to do it.

I was taken aback by how vehemently she was against it, but I knew where she was coming from. I’d already seen too much of the modern-day school system. She then continued by telling me that I made the right decision in homeschooling my children.

Her aunt, who was my teacher and my daughter’s teacher, is now a very good friend, and she’s stated more than once that she would never consider going back to teaching because it’s nothing like it used to be. It’s a babysitting service (and a terrible one at that), not an education.

If the teachers who earn their living in the public school system are losing hope and are literally counting the days until retirement, how can we as parents be at peace with sending our kids to an institution whose own employees detest it?


I agree wholeheartedly that all children deserve a good education. Unfortunately, government bureaucracy has almost guaranteed that that won’t happen in its schools.

**But I know a place where they can get one.**





Author: Shelly Sangrey

I'm Shelly, a Christ-following, homeschooling Mom of eleven children ( okay, not ALL children. My oldest is 23.) I met my husband right after graduation, and we've been together ever since. Though my life can be hectic at times... okay, ALL the time, I wouldn't change it for anything.

21 thoughts on “Why Should We Homeschool?- Part 12- Teachers Are Starting to Give Up”

    1. They have no business there. I truly believe they have no right dictating what we must do with our children. It’s a complete overreach of government power. Besides, they can’t even do their actual job properly, so who are they to stick their noses into education, too?

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      1. So true. The constitution puts education in the states’ hands. Education should be local and schools should serve families, not the other way around. It’s nice to know there are others who can see the overreach and damage. You’re awesome! 😀

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  1. Oh you are preaching to the choir here. My oldest two kids did okay in public/private schools, but both got bored and my oldest stated he just floated in High School since he played sports. My youngest son was shaken and his wrist bruised by a teacher in 2nd grade, then a principle that yelled at him and kicked / hit his chair until my son got angry and yelled back. Not to mention my youngest son’s not so great experience in private school, which we paid for his mistreatment. I hope my kids have the opportunity to homeschool their kids. I know it will be their choice, but IF the PARENT is capable and willing, I hope they do proceed with what my example.

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    1. I’ve read the amazing things that your kids do, and you are an awesome example for them to follow if they ever have children. My almost 12 year old already told me that she’s going to homeschool her future kids, and she wants me to help her. 🙂 I’m so sorry your youngest had to deal with that. That teacher and principal are not professionals in any sense of the word. Your children are blessed to have a mom who cared enough to get them out of that situation. There are so many kids who still must face it everyday.


  2. This topic is so tricky (and sensitive). After having taught in private, public and homeschool settings as well as having my kids homeschooled and in public schools, I have learned that there is no perfect. Every setting has it’s advantages and disadvantages. I think the trick is for each family to figure out for each child what is best for that season/year/time in their lives. It is so hard to find what works best, but going in to any situation with an open mind and open eyes makes a big difference. No one setting is right for everyone all the time.

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    1. That is very true. There are certainly some school districts out there that do not have these problems. Our school district, however, is notorious for student behavioral problems- to the point of students pushing teachers off the bleachers and assaulting them. I thank God that we are able to homeschool our own kids here.


  3. I’m sad to hear that teachers give up. I guess that’s true. I know a few myself who are exhausted. Thanks so much for sharing with us at Merry Monday.

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  4. I worked as a substitute teacher and in an elementary school’s after-school daycare program and it was those experiences that first pushed me into looking at homeschooling before I was even pregnant. My husband was very reluctant at first, until I kept coming home with more stories from teachers and kids.
    I know teachers who have quit because the stress is just too much. I don’t want to send my kids to a building 5 days a week where they may or may not be safe and where they may or may not be getting an education. Like you, I don’t blame the teachers but since they can’t change what is going on I’ll just keep my kids home.
    My mom worked at as bookkeeper in an elementary school in our district (different school than the one my sister and I attended) and she discouraged both of us from getting education degrees because of what she saw going on in the school. We both did get education degrees but I never used mine to teach in the public school system and my sister taught public school for one year and said she’s never going back.

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    1. I’ve heard stories like yours so many times. It’s so sad because there are so many selfless people who would give anything to teach- actually teach- but, unfortunately, in today’s world, it’s just not what many prospective teachers think it will be.


      1. I worked as an aide for almost a year in our county’s public preschool and the teacher I was working under said she felt like I got to teach and all she did was paperwork. She had two Master’s Degrees relating to teaching and was fluent in Spanish. What a waste of talent and education to have her doing mostly paperwork.


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