Do You Have a Love/Hate Relationship with Technology?

Me too- in a BIG way!

love/hate relationship with technology

Have you ever met someone that you just couldn’t figure out how you felt about them? That’s how I am with technology- particularly social media. Through the years, what started as a complete aversion to me has morphed into a very clear love/hate relationship.

I know, I know. This is the 21st century. Times have changed and the world has changed right along with it, which, to be honest, is the only reason I own this laptop to begin with.

I’m one of those people who just likes to live simply. I like books I can physically hold in my hands, I plan all of our homeschool lessons on paper, and my calendar is hanging on my wall- not stored on a microchip in my phone. 

To be sure, technology has certainly been beneficial to our family. Google is one of my very best friends, and I never would have been able to create this amazing platform to communicate my thoughts- rambling though they may be at times- to all of you.

Without the worldwide web there would be no Khan Academy, no Amazon, and no Netflix.

There would also be no Facebook, no Twitter, no Tumblr, and no YouTube…which is where this love/hate relationship begins.

As a blogger, social media is such a great way to not only spread the word about my blog, but it is also a great way to stay connected with all of the awesome people who take the time to read what I write.

Writing is truly the only time I actually take for myself. It is my “me time”, and what better way to spend this time than by not simply journaling like I used to do, but by posting my ideas, my hopes, and my dreams for all the world to see? Social media has been such a blessing in helping others to know what I’m all about, and I truly enjoy communicating with people that way.


I have my issues with it, as well. Most of these issues stem from my role as a mother, mainly this one thing…

 I don’t like what my kids are being exposed to while they’re online. As a mom who is trying to take advantage of our homeschooling lifestyle to instill Christian values in my children, I’m finding that my kids are being exposed to the same sorts of things that I wanted to keep them away from in school. And if that weren’t bad enough, we adults know that the adage “If it’s on the internet, then it must be true” is meant as a joke, but I’m finding that a lot of kids don’t realize that. Countless times, recently, I’ve had to set my kids straight on one falsehood or another being spread on Facebook, Kik, Tumblr, or some other popular teen social media platform.

I could just throw in the towel and say, “That’s it…I’m done with social media and so are my kids,” but, really, what would that accomplish? As teenagers who are quickly approaching adulthood- in fact, my oldest daughter just started her first job today- they are going to learn about these things one way or another. I’ve come to realize that maybe learning about them online isn’t such a bad thing because at home I’m better able to address these issues with them immediately.

My kids and I really do have great relationships, and they open up to me all the time about all sorts of things, so we’ve had some very lively conversations about various “news headlines” their friends on Tumblr insist is true. And, yes, I’ve got to put in a homeschooling plug here because I really don’t think our relationships would be what they are if they were away from me all day.

To be honest, I really didn’t know where I was going to go with this when I began writing…but I’ve had an epiphany of sorts while sitting here expressing my thoughts:

No relationship is perfect, but it’s important to find the good that’s hidden in the bad.

I’m going to take this love/hate relationship and turn it into something positive- an opportunity for open discussion on those issues they will inevitably be faced with.

If it comes down to learning about these things at home where I can guide them, or after they’re out on their own, it’s really a no-brainer.

You know? I’m starting to think that technology just might not be so bad after all.

Author: Shelly Sangrey

I'm Shelly, a Christ-following, homeschooling Mom of eleven children ( okay, not ALL children. My oldest is 23.) I met my husband right after graduation, and we've been together ever since. Though my life can be hectic at times... okay, ALL the time, I wouldn't change it for anything.

35 thoughts on “Do You Have a Love/Hate Relationship with Technology?”

  1. Very well said. As a blogger I am learning to deal with much of technology stuff. I tend to attack it in my time off (whatever that is lol) I want to learn all about it so when the kids are talking to me, a) I have a clue b) We can have discussions about it.

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  2. This is very well stated. It is hard to find that happy medium between social media and technology. However, like anything else we have to find what works for us. Like you pointed out, at least we can be there to help them navigate it all since we do homeschool them.

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  3. This is right on point! I, too, have a love/hate relationship with technology and especially social media. Thankfully, the boys are too young to be exposed to much, but I do my the things Monkey Boy can watch on his own via Netflix and YouTube. It’s a tricky thing, but also an enjoyable and connecting one – technology and the Internet. 🙂

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  4. I love technology but then my kids are too young for me to worry about what they’re accessing. Could be worse – I’m sure their kids will have google downloaded straight into their brains 😉 Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday

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  5. I think the most important thing with technology is to teach kids the skills to research and evaluate information for themselves – it is such a wonderful tool, but there is so much rubbish out there that can mislead people if they’re not careful. #FridayFrivolity

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  6. I’m so thrilled every time I “meet” a new homeschooler! You ladies, and gents, are the true back bones of our kids’ educational future! The schools are horrible! (I was there as a teacher, I know!!) the sad thing is, the teachers are so bound by the rules, regulations, etc, that they are so frustrated! They can’t teach the way they want to, and know is best.
    Stepping off my soap box now. Sorry.
    hm mh Technology-yes. I love/hate it too! I keep going off FB, then back on to keep in touch with far flung friends.
    I have issues with the actual technology itself, when I can’t get the computer to do what I want!! lol
    Lovely to meet you, Shelly.
    Inspire Me Monday

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    1. Thank you so much for yoour great comments. I consider teachers to be heroes for exactly the reasons you stated- their hands are completely tied, yet they try with all their hearts to do what’s best for their students. 🙂

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  7. Hi, it’s tough isn’t it. Like anything I think that in moderation technology and social media is okay. It is when it starts to rule our lives rather than helping us to run our lives that we need to worry. Thank Pen x #KCACOLS

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  8. Raising my hand over here. I hate that my grandchildren are being raised in the technological age, where we all have phones at our sides or in our faces much of the time. We are striving for more balance, which is good, yet I feel technology will be our downfall in the personal connection department. However, it is the age in which we live and you are right, we must find good, and there is still much.

    I have to also say that technology is the very bane of my existence. I am technologically challenged in every way known to mankind. I still cannot believe I created my own website and still run all of it myself. Very poorly at times, I might add.

    Always enjoy your posts!

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