Dear Dr. Ablow,
Recently I read with interest your op-ed column on Fox News in which you advised parents to do as you did and apologize to their kids for having to waste their time in school.
“As a parent myself, I literally apologized to each of my children—and not just once—for the fact that so much of their time as grade school and junior high school and high school students (even at private school) was being spent on memorization, regurgitation and rote learning that amounted to busy work and the warehousing of them, physically and mentally.” – Keith Ablow
Don’t get me wrong. I hear you loud and clear, and, more importantly, I agree with you, but what good is an apology? You’ve said it yourself that the U.S. educational system has not only failed its students, but “dehumanizes them.”
Those are pretty strong words for someone who has continued to faithfully send their children to an institution that clearly has harmed them.
“…their kids might start to think that their instinctive distaste for regurgitating inert information means that there is something wrong with the way they think, not something wrong with the way the educational system dehumanizes them. They might start to distrust themselves, instead of the adults around them (including most of their parents and most of their teachers) who pretend to be wholly committed to nurturing them and educating them, when the truth is that they could reach deeper and kindle, in them, far more intellectual and personal growth.” –Keith Ablow
Why do you obediently send them there when you are well aware of the damage being done?
The sad part about it is that you’re not alone. There are so many people who get that the school system is a failed social experiment. You’re so close to the answer, but then you just brush it off, and say, Oh, well. Sorry, kids.
Stop spouting off empty words, and do something about it!
Approximately 2.5 million children are currently being homeschooled in the United States right now, and I’d wager that a good portion of those kids are being homeschooled because their parents felt the same way you do. As the educational system continues to fail miserably, that population is bound to grow more and more with each passing year.
Through the years, this educational approach has proven itself over and over again, so why wasn’t it even mentioned in your column? I get that it’s hard- I homeschool ten of my own kids, but I feel strongly enough in my convictions that I will do whatever I need to do to give my kids the lives- and education- they deserve.
And, contrary to popular opinion, homeschooling is not a luxury afforded to only stay-at-home moms. There are single homeschoolers, working homeschoolers, and people homeschooling their nieces and nephews. It is entirely possible for almost anyone who is willing to think outside of the box for the sake of their own children.
Believe me, I wholeheartedly agree with your concerns, but do you honestly believe that a simple apology is enough? I think not.
Actions speak louder than words.