Why I Will Never Force College on My Kids

College is not as important as people believe.

Over the past few years of me being a homeschool blogger, I’ve learned one very obvious thing:

My views on homeschooling, education, and the world, in general, are very different from most other homeschool moms.

My opinion on the necessity of college definitely falls into this category. Here’s why.

Over the past few decades, we’ve quickly grown into a nation that is mesmerized with  technocracy – a world obsessed with “experts,” so to speak.

While this doesn’t seem bad from the outset, here’s the problem:

40 or 50 years ago, someone who spent a large amount of time in the field studying a specific discipline would have been considered an expert. Instead of sitting in a classroom all day taking notes from a powerpoint or highlighting key points in a textbook, experts-in-training would have been immersed in their actual field of study. They would have been at the site, conducting experiments, comparing specimens, and putting their knowledge into practice.

This certainly isn’t the case today. Our society has evolved into a groupthink mindset that reveres a piece of paper called a degree and somehow equates that piece of paper that was earned in a classroom as evidence of expertise.

It doesn’t matter how much or how little time was spent in the actual field itself…that piece of paper is all that matters.

Needless to say, this has not only decreased the quality of our “experts,” but it has led a large portion of the population to believe that if they’re ever going to succeed, college is the only way to do it. Forget autodidactic learners who have proven this isn’t the case. A college degree is where it’s at.

College isn't education, but indoctrination.

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Let me be very clear about something. The more I research the history of this country and the education system, the more anti-establishment I become. You simply can’t dig into these things with an open mind and come up with any other conclusion.

Suffice it to say, we’ve been fooled.

With that in mind, I’ve realized something. Our college institutions have become very much like the public education system – less education and more indoctrination. It couldn’t be more clear. A high number of college students support limiting free speech and have embraced cultural Marxism.

And while these students may have become experts in trying to rewrite the Constitution, one thing is for sure – their education is subpar. They can’t name more than a few U.S. Presidents, they don’t know what the Revolutionary War was all about, and some of them can’t even find the state where they live on a map.

Yeah, it’s that bad.

Yet here we are, living in a world that considers college to be the ultimate destination for every high school graduate. We’re pushing our youth into institutions that dumb them down and brainwash them.

Not good.

Does this mean that I discourage my kids from attending? Not at all. My oldest son has a degree. The key is helping kids to realize that not every profession needs a degree. Sometimes they truly can be a complete waste of time and money. (I know…I went to college for theater and speech.)

To be perfectly honest, I can see that college degrees are quickly becoming a dime a dozen. Since we’re so indoctrinated to believe they’re absolutely necessary, EVERYONE seems to be getting one. So much for competitive wages.

One thing I’ve tried to instill in my children is an entrepreneurial spirit. In a world in which everyone is being trained for the same sort of profession, people who are innovative, independent, and resourceful will stand out from the rest.

And isn’t that what we parents try to tell our kids from the time they’re little?? Don’t be like everyone else.

Why then, should that change upon graduation? Quick answer? It shouldn’t.

We’re living in a changing world. It’s time to break free of the chains of tradition and support our kids no matter what they want to do.

That, my friends, is the key to success. Having the courage to break the mold and walk the road less traveled. Maybe it’s time we start applauding the kids who want to do that.


Author: Shelly Sangrey

I'm Shelly, a Christ-following, homeschooling Mom of eleven children ( okay, not ALL children. My oldest is 23.) I met my husband right after graduation, and we've been together ever since. Though my life can be hectic at times... okay, ALL the time, I wouldn't change it for anything.

30 thoughts on “Why I Will Never Force College on My Kids”

  1. I totally agree! College here is one of many good options, nothing more! My son wants to be a police officer and my daughter just wants to work with horses. I’ll be happy just seeing them become who they want to be without any pressure either way.

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    1. Unfortunately, most p.o.’s have to complete college in order to advance for raises and retirement, or risk getting stuck at entry level. Learned the hard way- very frustrating.

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      1. It is so frustrating. It’s time people are given opportunities because of their experience and because they’re good at what they do, not because they have a piece of paper.


  2. I literally preached this our whole homeschool life. After graduation my son decided he wants to be a lawyer and my daughter; a child psychologist and my other son wants to go into education: all jobs that require a college degree. It was a little blown away and had to scramble to teach myself everything I need to know to get a kid/s into college on the fly.

    The good news is, their homeschool education has given them a huge advantage and they have been beyond successful in college. Our goal is to equip them to do anything they want to accomplish in life and I feel like homeschooling was the best way to do that. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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  3. Great points! I have a BS and not using bc I’ve chosen to be a SAHM! But thankful for my degree because it lead me to a job in the community that lead me to my husband! And so thankful (unlike most) I finished college without debts. I know of many moms who desires to be a SAHM but can’t bc college debts. So sad. Women are so mislead and when they turn into moms, many struggle with guilt and regret loans and degrees. Now, my husband was a college freshman drop out and chased his dream as a farmer, and is doing great! I’m so thankful he doesn’t have any college loans. However, we know several farmers around here who struggle bc of college loans. Degrees that we’re not needed…..degrees that made them look good on paper. College degrees can be great, but shall NOT be required to succeed.

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  4. I cringe when I remember how I felt when the idea of college came up. I remember so clearly having no clue what I wanted to do (or, rather, I wanted to do so many different things, I couldn’t pick just one) and thought I had to college or I would be a “loser.” I realize how societal norms caused me to think this way. When I started HS, I was actually discouraged from taking home economics. “You don’t need that. You are going to college.” What?!? So, people who go to college are never going to run a household or have a family? It just worsened as time went on but I could not see it at the time. The advice I would give my younger self – for heaven’s sake, if you don’t know what you want to do as a career, do NOT go to college right away. Work for a while and get some life experience and figure out where life is taking you. This is what I am telling my boys. Thanks for another great article. Glad there are other “weirdo” homeschool mamas out there.

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    1. I was told by my guidance counselor that I couldn’t take accounting or bookkeeping because they were business courses, and I was in collge prep. I ended up taking no math at all my senior year for that reason. Ridiculous.


  5. Yes to everything you said! So very true. Thank you for your excellent vids, your clarity, your sincerity. You are an inspiration, the voice of reason in a vast wilderness at this time in history. Your sentiments remind me of a book I ordered last year by Blake Boles, titled Better Than College, How to build a successful life without a four year degree.” Kids are grooving on the concept of the “gap year” Taking a gap year to live life, scope things out before the big leap, one way or another. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this topic, so very important. I feel the same way, what I wanted most was that our children pursue their God-given interests and giftings, everyone has something unique within to share that brings them and others good, like finding the win-win. Shielding them from the pressure to conform, encouraging them to follow what the Creator has put on their hearts, that was to be the symphony.

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    1. That sounds like a book I need to check out! “Shielding them from the pressure to conform, encouraging them to follow what the Creator has put on their hearts, that was to be the symphony.” I absolutely LOVE that.


  6. Almost everything we’ve been taught is lies. Regular MD’s are indoctrinated as well, they are not taught about vitamins and nutrition; they only treat symptoms. They’re basically glorified pharmacist and prescribe whatever the big pharma sales rep. gives them. The victors of wars write the history books, and performing experiments using the scientific method has been replaced by fantastical theories taught as fact. Anything taught in college can be found in your public library or online. I personally think goal setting and problem solving are the key. Most of my wealthy friends don’t have degrees or have one that’s not related to their business and most of my high school friends that went to college punch time clocks for a living. In business no one ask or cares about education, the only thing that matters is your financial statement. I didn’t listen to the “go to college and get a good job” nonsense. I barely made it out of high school. I started a small business at the age of 20, bought my first house at 21, and at 38 I wrote a check for my wife’s dream home. I’m not special by any means and anyone can do it; they just have to believe it’s possible. Money is not everything, the old saying is true it will not buy happiness. I believed once I hit my goal I would feel happy and everything would be different. It actually was depressing working for something for so long only to feel the same as I did when I was broke. Material things are just that things, real success in life is finding something you love and doing whatever makes you happy regardless of what others think.
    “The A students work for the B students, the C students run the companies, and the D students dedicate the buildings”- Paul Orfalea

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  7. I so wholeheartedly agree! Even my liberal daughter agrees that college is a no need!! Yay!! Finally something we can agree on!!
    Public education makes us drones. College education makes you a drone with a degree.

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  8. I certainly understand your stance on higher education. There is certainly an agenda that no member of the intelligencia no longer even attempts to obscure.
    The support for socialism is all related to expansion of government authority. From a Rothbardian perspective, educators often fall into a class of intellectuals that do not possess much in the way of marketable skills. The unspoken agreement between the intellectuals and the state is that you act as a mouthpiece of governmental interests they are guaranteed a livelihood. This alliance dates back to the old world hereditary monarchies of Europe where court intellectuals we seen as strategic tools for spreading royal propaganda. Considering most colleges and Universities are public and funded by tax dollars (partially in most cases) this unholy union and attempts to proliferate socialism makes sense.
    Parents shouldn’t pressure their kids to attend college, that will invariably will be a waste of money. College in theory should be seen in a utilitarian manner. It should be seen as an investment in human capital that can be used as a springboard for greater success. However, a college education is subject to supply and demand like any other commodity or service. When the market is glutted by college degrees inevitable their value on the job market will plummet.
    If a a college aged young adult wanted to attend an institution of higher education for a genuinely advantageous degree such as engineering, that would be a reasonable endeavor. However, they would also need to possess the reasoning skills to be able to inoculate themselves against faulty ideas. Particularly for the humanities classes that are generally requirements as general education courses.


  9. I can’t tell you how much I agree with this! Thankfully my parents never pushed, although I’ve got a best friend who is feeling the pressure to attend college and all for a degree she doesn’t even want. Regardless, if I had a choice between two people to do my operation: a person who has physically done multiple successful operations, or a person who has only studied those operations enough to earn the degree, well, it’s safe to say you know who I’d pick.

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  10. As a college professor, admittedly an adjunct with only one institution, my experience is that the indoctrination scare pushed by some media personalities is much less of an issue and much less common than they want you to believe. They have to make it huge and scary so you keep tuning into their channel. That said, I do think you have a lot of other great points. College is being treated as a filter by business more than for education. By that, I mean jobs that used to require a high school degree and aren’t any more complex today than they used to be, now require a college degree…..why? Because they can. The thought, I assume, is that someone who has passed college has shown a little more stick-to-it-ness than the next person without a degree. I’m not a big fan of that philosophy. There are hundreds of careers that don’t require college that are respectable, value-adds to the country and can earn someone a decent living…..think electrician, plumber, etc. Many of these careers may require education but not traditional college.
    Further, with the speed of technological change, decreases the value of any education. My opinion is that we need to transition our mindset away from a one-time only education into life-long learners.


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