10 Lies About Homeschooling You Need to Ignore

Don't listen to these lies!

As someone who has been around the homeschooling community both in real life and online for the past eight years, I’ve come across some real whoppers about homeschooling. 

Lies About Homeschooling

While those of us who actually know what this life is all about may roll our eyes at these falsehoods, they can actually pose a real problem for those who are either considering homeschooling or who may have just started.  (I made a YouTube video about this here.)

I can’t even begin to count the number of times I’ve had people approach me who are second guessing their decision to homeschool based on rumors or unintentional falsehoods that are being perpetuated by those who have never homeschooled, never been homeschooled, and never known anyone who homeschooled.

Today I’m going to clear up some mistruths that I either hear most often or that are simply the most ridiculous. Here goes.

10 Lies About Homeschooling You Need to Ignore

1. Homeschoolers must follow the same laws as public school.

homeschool law

I think this notion began circulating because of the confusion between cyber schooling and homeschooling. Since cyber schoolers and, very often, cyber school programs refer to themselves as homeschoolers, this can be very confusing to those who don’t understand that they are two different things.

Yes, cyber schoolers are bound to the same regulations as public schools because that’s what they are- public school at home. Homeschooling, however, is accompanied by an entirely different set of laws.

That’s one of the ways you can tell the difference between the two. 😉

2. Homeschooled children can’t read or write.

standardized tests bad

I’m going to admit, being that it is 2017, I thought that the most “out there” accusations about home education had stopped, but apparently, I was wrong.

Last night, I happened upon a blog post that referred to homeschooling as a “plague” and asserted that homeschool parents don’t teach their kids to read or write.

Yes, I’m serious.

This shouldn’t even surprise me considering that I once had a neighbor ask my then-12- year-old daughter if she could read, and then follow up by handing her a book that he said he was going to quiz her on.

Maybe this idea comes from the fact that many homeschoolers allow their children to learn to read at their own pace, which means that some homeschoolers learn to read later. To be honest though, after reading that post, I’m convinced there are simply people out there who have a vendetta against the homeschool movement and will say anything to discredit it.

3. Homeschool parents don’t bother teaching their kids because they’re too busy waiting for the rapture.

Lies about homeschooling

I kid you not, this was mentioned in the same blog post I spoke of earlier.


I don’t even want to dignify this ridiculous statement with an answer. Don’t get me wrong. I am a believer and do believe this will happen someday, maybe in my lifetime, maybe not, but that doesn’t affect my responsibility to teach my children.

I honestly have no words for this one. Sigh.

4. Homeschooled kids don’t learn right.

Homeschooled kids don't learn right

I don’t even know what this means. I’m guessing it might stem from the fact that most homeschoolers don’t learn in a textbook/lecture/classroom setting. But even if that’s the case, don’t people realize how poorly that set up actually works?

Homeschoolers have the benefit of learning in a way that suits them best. They aren’t forced to fit in that cookie cutter mold that only really fits a select few.

If anything, I think that’s better, don’t you?

5. Homeschooled kids are weird.

Are homeschoolers weird?

Okay. Let me just say this. While there are some pretty weird homeschoolers, there are also some pretty weird public school students, too, right?

I mean, really. It’s not like homeschoolers have the market on weirdness. If you would go to the mall right now, pick out the person you thought was the most “unique,” and ask them where they went to school, odds are they’d give you the name of a brick and mortar school- not a homeschool.

And to be honest, I say that if your kids are weird, embrace it. Homeschooling allows children to be the people they truly are. Without the worries of peer pressure and societal expectations, homeschoolers really do have the benefit of being individuals instead of followers.

I’d say that’s a good thing.

6. Homeschoolers don’t know how to interact with people outside their family.

Do homeschoolers know how to interact?

This is another one I really have to shake my head at. This isn’t the 1980s. Homeschooling is widespread, so I’m sure most people realize that homeschoolers aren’t locked up in their houses all day.

Yet this lie perpetuates…

In our society, I’ve found that people are getting more and more to the point that they’ll parrot what others have said without actually thinking about it. It’s like you mention the word “homeschool” and an alarm goes off in people’s heads:

homeschool socialization

Beep! Beep! Socialization! Socialization!

They don’t think about what they’re saying. It’s just an automatic reaction, like when someone sneezes and you say, “Bless you.”

“We homeschool.”

Beep! “But what about socialization?!”

Homeschoolers have neighbors, friends, and acquaintances. They interact with people at the grocery store, bank, and art class. And, unlike a traditional school setting, they actually get to talk to and hang out with people of all ages, not a classroom full of kids their own age who they’re not even supposed to be talking to.

7. Homeschoolers can’t go to college.

Can homeschoolers get into college

This is the 21st century, so, again, I’m shocked that this is still an issue.

Yes. Homeschoolers can get into college. In fact, many colleges seek them out because homeschoolers have been educated in such a way that, simply put, they know how to learn.

Let’s put this one to rest. Pretty please.

8. Homeschool parents must be hiding something.

homeschool parents

As I was browsing online the other day, I discovered that there is actually a coalition of people who are trying to make homeschooling laws more strict. They cite instances of child abuse in homeschooling households.

Okay. I know that there are some disturbing cases involving homeschooled children, but the vast majority of child abuse cases involve kids who go to public school. Not only that, where is the coalition striving for tighter regulations for the public education system to combat all the instances of:

  • Inappropriate student/teacher relationships?
  • Bullying?
  • On-campus sexual assaults- including at elementary schools?
  • School shootings?
  • School stabbings?

Where is the outcry over this??

So, no. Homeschool parents are not hiding anything. We simply want to raise and educate our children, as is our God-given right, without government interference, because let’s face it….

School isn’t about education. It’s about social engineering.

9. Homeschool parents are lazy.

Responsibility of Homeschooling

A couple years ago, I read a comment somewhere that stated that the reason people homeschool is because they’re too lazy to get up and get their kids on the bus.


I’ll admit that I’m not a morning person and enjoy not having to wake up at the crack of dawn, but who in their right mind believes that getting your kids on the bus is somehow harder than caring for your kids all day long? Not only that, but there’s the added mess, the extra dishes, the day-to-day bickering, and, oh yeah, the teaching!

Wow. Just. Wow.

10. Homeschooled kids don’t get to experience the real world.

Homeschoolers learn in the real world

Oh, good gravy. How is sitting in a school building for seven hours a day the real world??

I’ll tell you. It’s not. It is a simulation of the real world and a poor one at that.

This is another talking point that sounds off the homeschool alarm.

Warning! Warning!

Again, how is it not obvious that when kids have the opportunity to live and engage in the community around them each and every day, they are the ones in the real world!

One point people love to bring up is adversity. (Watch my video on adversity here.) I just want to let you in on a little secret.

Come a little closer…

School isn’t the only place where you find adversity!

There’s no possible way anyone could be out and about every day without having to deal with negative issues every now and again. My daughter works in retail. She faces adversity daily. My kids play with the neighbors. Believe me, they run into problems with them all the time. Unfortunately, adversity knows no borders. You find it everywhere.

Not just school.

Homeschooling is an amazing and beautiful choice to make for your family, so here’s the takeaway on today’s post:

Do not ever ask for or accept homeschooling advice from someone who has never actually done it (no matter how good their intentions are), because chances are, you may be misled.

Have you heard any other falsehoods about homeschooling? Leave a comment!





Author: Shelly Sangrey

I'm Shelly, a Christ-following, homeschooling Mom of eleven children ( okay, not ALL children. My oldest is 23.) I met my husband right after graduation, and we've been together ever since. Though my life can be hectic at times... okay, ALL the time, I wouldn't change it for anything.

41 thoughts on “10 Lies About Homeschooling You Need to Ignore”

  1. Hi Shelly! I’ll be sharing this one today! This is still a very relevant topic. You should put out a your posts! They are so encouraging and help to dispel so many myths and circular reasonings still circulating out there regarding homeschool life. Thank you so much for taking time to help those around you. God Bless ~LuAnne

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  2. I have heard so many of these and they’re just nuts! Lately I have been fielding the “then how will they get into college question” since my oldest is not openly saying that he’s homeschooling high school too.

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  3. Great post! I hope people by now are beginning to realize thar homeschoolers are as diverse in their attitudes and justifications for their decision as public schoolers are. The rapture myth is especially galling to those of us that have a more secular approach. And it is doubly irritating to be criticized for your choice and have your motivations impugned, when you are already foregoing a second income , a clean house, and any shred of sanity you might have enjoyed while sending your kids off to school. Actually, having done both. I think homeschooling is far better for a parent’s ( and a child’s) mental health.

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  4. Brilliant piece. Made me laugh out loud and gasp with shock. I can’t believe some of those views are still around!! Well said, Shelly. 🙂 And well done for setting the record straight.

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  5. The best one I ever heard was that home education was illegal! And that was by my daughter’s teacher! It really is amazing what you hear. I just smile and let my little ones health and happiness speak for itself.

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  6. I am truly happy that you are proud of your decision to homeschool. However, your attitude toward kids that go to school is one of the main reasons that homeschoolers are not generally loved outside of their circle. It is the condescending attitude that turns people off right away. There is great value to the school experience for all kids, including Christian kids. To each their own.

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    1. Hmm…I’m sorry you think I’m being condescending towards the students themselves, although I keep rereading this post, and I don’t see it. I did, however, point out flaws within the school system which school teachers have consistently agreed with.

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  7. Very good points… thank you for highlighting them. I used to feel irritation w/ a friend who complained how she couldn’t get her house clean because her 4 kids messed it up. I had a hard time sympathizing because she sent her 4 kids off to school each day and had all of those hours alone w/ no one “messing up” the house while my 6 kids were at home all day, every day and not only did I have to do housework, but schoolwork with them and so many other things. I’m so glad we do that, but it does make for more work and it was obvious she didn’t understand the reality of the differences we faced. Trying to clean the house w/ several children busily learning and living is not the easiest thing in the world. 🙂 Oh, how I love learning w/ them though.

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  8. Interesting and spot-on article. My mom raised 6 of us and homeschooled each of us to graduation of high school. 3 of us now hold advanced degrees and doing very well in life. Three of us have adopted, and five of us have also homeschooled our children. “Being lazy” brought a chuckle. I would challenge any woman to follow my wife around and see if they could make it just one week without falling apart, still have strength to take care of the family, and of course, without resorting to almost killing something! LOL

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  9. Your article is spot on! I relate to it on so many different levels. To add to that, I can simply say that me and my husband did face some criticism about our decision to homeschool from my own parents, who by they way hold some of the beliefs that you highlighted in the article.

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  10. Keep up the good work Shelley! It’s absolutely preposterous how misinformed people still are about homeschooling! Thanks for all the posts! I’ve started following you and found your posts very informative, right to the point. God bless!!

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  11. I live in a small community and am one of the very few homeschoolers. I have been amazed, completely discouraged and appalled by some people’s belief in lies and assumptions about homeschooling. Last year I was bombarded by people’s comments and wonderful (sarcasm)small town gossip. I almost starting believing in some of the lies myself. Most of the lies/assumptions are from people who really have no idea about homeschool. Maybe an aunt’s nephew, from her grandma’s dog homeschooler and it was blah blah blah, but they never stopped to think about what education really is. Most people never even care to look past the smoke screen, instead they accept things at face value. I really appreciate you saying it how it is. I almost stopped homeschooling because I started to believe the lies, until I realized they are just that, lies.


  12. I really enjoyed this post. I’ve heard of most of these but just started homeschooling our grandson who we are raising so I’m expecting/dreading hearing them again. It’s a good reminder to trust my research and heart’s desire to do what’s best for my grandson. I knew I was on the right path when we realized that on the 1st day of public school we will actually be camping and learning in a relaxed beautiful setting, and he is stoked!

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